Of being Gentlemen

haha..len foong must have know how long i start this post, but i never did finish it

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we always talk about "ladies first", "gentlemen" to boys. i don't know why. some boys around me ( more specifically, boys from Malaysia) just aren't gentlemen. I am not talking about you carrying all my stuffs and paying all my bills.

Things that we, girls will ask for are as simple as holding doors for us even you walk in front, let us go on bus/MTR first. All these are not any things that require you to sacrifice anything, right?? But some boys i know are not used to all this little gesture.

Here is an incident that i would like to tell you, and i m sure girls will agree with me.
Last last week(you see, how long ago when i had the inspiration to blog this), me n LF had dinner with some friends out side campus and we went back quite late at night.
That afternoon, i went shopping for the party we are going to organize later in the week. So, i am carrying two big bags of food for the party.
*I have to clarify here, i am totally fine with carrying all the things myself. I am used to carrying a lot of things to class, all by myself. *
ok, let's continue.
So, i have two bags of shopping. And dear len foong offer to help me to carry one bag. *len foong is a girl* The two of us walked back to our dorm with a guy from Malaysia. Let's name him J. To go back to our dorm, we have to take lifts and go through a few fire doors.
*For your information, fire doors in HKUST are heavy, you have to use all your energy to open it, or to hold it,erm, at least for girls.*

Still remember the two girls are carrying two big bags of shoppings?? J was walking in front of us and we saw him open the fire door and walk out the door. The two of us were expecting him to at least hold the door for us since we don't have an empty hand to open the door. But this guy just let the door close in front of us and we have to open it by pushing with out arms.

Len foong was very curious why he's not holding doors for us. so she asked why is he not being a gentleman and hold door for us.

The answer we get was indeed shocking.
" Because i don't see a reason to be gentleman to the two of you."

Len foong and me go " What???!!!!" at almost the same time.
What does he meant by no reason to be gentleman to us??
Because the two of us look too tough??
Because the two of us too fat??
Do girls who look tough and fat are not worth to be treated nicely???wtf

For me, the main reason we are not being treated nicely is : we are not his girlfriend or the girl he likes.

Why are guys like this one?? Not your girlfriend cannot be gentleman to them la.
I tell you what? Being gentleman is like gaining reputation for yourself. Girls will tell each other, We do talk about boys. We know who are good and who are not. We do talk about who is the gentleman and who is the chauvinist pig. If you are being labeled as the "not gentleman", then sorry to you first, you won't get to court girls.

Is it that difficult just to do something easy like holding doors?? Not, right??

Hoh, just can't understand boys.

ps : ok, i m not complaining about other boys outside. Just the certain boy i mention in this post. I just dislike his attitude towards girls. hmph!! how dare him..